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You CAN leave an abusive relationship

Almost everyone I have ever spoken to about women in abusive relationships says, “why doesn’t she just leave?” Everyone, not in the actual abusive relationship, makes it sound so easy. Just pack your bags and leave, sounds simple right? The reality is, it isn’t that simple for the person being abused. If you are that person in an abusive relationship, this post is for you. It may not be easy to leave but you can get out of your abusive relationship safely.Abuse|HarassedMom

One of the things I will never take for granted is the support I had when I left my ex-husband. A big part of why I was able to leave the very first time he smacked me was because I knew my parents and my brother were a phone call away. Not everyone has this luxury, which is often why women don’t just simply leave.

You can still leave the abusive situation you are in, here is how.

Ask for help. I know that this is not always easy or possible to do but if you reach out to a colleague or a friend, you will probably discover they are willing to help. If you don’t have anyone you can ask for help, there are various organisations that can help you. Call #ForWomen on 0800428428 and ask for help.

Start saving. If it is possible, try to set aside some money each month or whenever you can. If you do not have family or friends to stay with when you leave, having a financial cushion can help BUT if it is possible, you can still leave.

Plan your exit. Put a plan in place as to how you are going to leave. If you have children, figure out how you are going to get them out with you in the least disruptive way possible. Figure out where you are going to go. If you are going to a friend or family, let them know so that you know they will definitely be there when you decide to leave. Having a plan can also make the process easier because you know what to expect. It is important to make sure that you get the right advice before you decide to leave. The TEARS foundation can help you support you through the entire procedure. You can contact TEARS on *134*7355#

Prepare. Pack a bag with the essential items you want to take with, keep it in your car if it is safe to do so. If you have older children, talk to them about the plan so they can also prepare, this will make the actual exit easier as they will know what is going to happen.

If you leave in a hurry because of an assault, go straight to the police station to report the abuse.

The team at #ForWomen have put together some safety planning guidelines for both you and your children if you want to leave because of domestic violence.

Even though #16daysofactivism ended yesterday, it is important for me to talk about this so that women in abusive relationships know that they are not alone. There is a way out of an abusive situation. No one deserves to be treated with disrespect or made to live in fear of another person. Help is out there.

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  1. Tracey
    11 December, 2017 / 2:23 pm

    Also remember that not all abuse is physical. Being emotionally abused is harder to figure out and at times more damaging because the scars or “marks” aren’t visible.

    If you think you are being abused emotionally Google “gas lighting”for the signs.

  2. 13 December, 2017 / 4:05 pm

    Such a great article. Very helpful. Thank you for sharing.

  3. Krystal Miller
    13 December, 2017 / 5:51 pm

    I luckily haven’t had to deal with this in my close circle of family and friends, but I love awareness posts like this. You never know when the info could make a huge difference in someones life!

    • Laura-Kim
      15 December, 2017 / 12:51 pm

      Yeah this is my hope Krystal. If one person reads this and finds the strength to leave it will be worth it

  4. 14 December, 2017 / 1:24 pm

    I imagine that it cannot be easy to get out. It takes a lot of bravery. I hope this article saves a few people and they follow the steps needed to save themselves.

  5. 14 December, 2017 / 2:49 pm

    This is a great message to all that are struggling to leave an abusive relationship. There are a ton of resources out there to help those that do not have any support close by.
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    • Laura-Kim
      15 December, 2017 / 12:50 pm

      Yes there are but the first step is realising it is possible to leave

  6. 14 December, 2017 / 4:35 pm

    This is such a great post! I love how it encourages those who are in an abusive relationship who probably doesn’t think they could do it.

    Belle | One Awesome Momma

  7. 14 December, 2017 / 6:44 pm

    Sending warm hugs your way. I am so glad you walked away. I think a lot of women also suffer because they don’t realise they are in an abusive relationship because the abuser is playing mind tricks with them in making them believe that they deserve everything that is happening. Thank you for sharing your tips having seen the other side. I am sure it will help a lot of them out there.

    • Laura-Kim
      15 December, 2017 / 12:47 pm

      Yip. So often the woman is so caught up in it they don’t even realise 🙁


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