Happiness is a choice I make every single day

There was a time, not so long ago where I was a bit of a drama llama. I would rant and vent and wallow and jump on any negative band wagon I could find. Social media makes this so easy to do. Every day people are outraged about some or other thing and it often turns into shaming of some sort, bullying or just down right nastiness. I have been there, I have thrown my fair share of nastiness around. I have allowed what other people are doing to upset me, to eat into my happiness and steal my joy. 

Then one day, a unicorn was standing in my path and shot an arrow of rainbows and happiness at me and now I am just a walking ray of sunshine, love and happiness. 

I wish it was that easy. It is not. Being happy is a choice I now make every.single.day. 

I reached a point where I was getting so caught up in everyone else’s drama I wasn’t really enjoying my life.

It is not always easy and something I have to work on every day but it is so worth it, I feel like a nicer person now and my days are no longer about drama or how bad things are but rather about happy things and how we can make things better.

Am I about it be sainted by Mother Theresa – nope not at all. I am still human and there are moments I am not happy and I am not a nice person but I am trying to make those moments the exception not the norm.

You might be wondering why I am doing this? 

Well it is quite simple – isn’t it better to be happy than a drama llama?

Isn’t it better to be kind than unkind? 

Isn’t it better to rather support one another than tear one another down?

Isn’t it better to say nothing rather than saying something mean?

I was one of those people what would share all about strong women supporting women on Women’s Day but I wasn’t really living those words. I wasn’t really actually doing anything to make the circle I am in better, I was saying how I should or how I could but I never really did anything.

Then the unicorn shot another arrow and the angels shone their light of love on me and I was amazing.

Still no!

But I did decide to try be a better person because the world has more than enough assholes already, I don’t need to add my name to the pile!

YES I still read stuff and think “no man you are mad” and I wonder about the authenticity of people and brands. I still snap at the MWEB call center agents when they tell me my microwave is causing my slow internet. Of course I swear every now and then at the stupid moron who cut me off in the traffic. And YES I do still have a little gossip here and there.

I am not a freaking unicorn but I am at trying to be better!

Before I react though, especially online I ask myself if what that person is doing affects my life or the life of my family. If it doesn’t then I scroll on, shrug and get on with my day. I am also trying to actually DO rather than just say. I can re-share a million anti-government posts but will that fix the potholes? Will it make the life of the millions in the country better? Nope. So I am getting up and trying to make a difference, a real difference that will change a life and if I am really lucky maybe 2 lives. 

We really all need to start being better people.

We need to start being kinder, especially when we don’t want to be. 

We need to make sure our motivations for our outrage are about the cause and not for the attention.

We need to start putting out into the world what we want to get back.

We need to stop feeding the negativity.

We need to start doing more positive things. 

We need to all be better!

What the world needs now is love, sweet love
It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of
What the world needs now is love, sweet love,
No, not just for some but for everyone.

Just for today, try to be better, be kinder, be positive, be happier!