I don’t cope too well with change.
If you had asked me I would have said “ja I love change” or “change doesn’t bug me” and other such things supporting change (which I do) BUT I do not cope well with it.
I like things to change. I do get bored easily but there are certain things I need to remain pretty stable – like the kid’s routine. Their bed time, dinner time, bath time, school time, extra murual time – I need that to be constant. At the moment it is not.
I am fetching them from school now and while the newsletters do have end times – they are NEVER THE FREAKING actual end times.
I don’t have a lot of time to fetch them. I have to get back to the shop so I can’t wait 30 minutes for a soccer match (unless I KNEW about it and could plan for it), I can’t wait until the teacher decides to let them out the class (again thanks to the lovely Afrikaans teacher who keeps them in until they are all quiet – fine whatever but really?) I also currently have no way of communicating with them to find out if something has been cancelled, changed, moved etc. So I am relying on Debby, who works at the school and is also a friend but really it’s not fair to keep asking her to please check when this ends and watch them until I can get there. She doesn’t mind and maybe it’s more about me needing to be in control.
But it all boils down to CHANGE! Things have changed. I will get into a new routine but for now it has me feeling very anxious. Which has Kiara very anxious.
I have to sort it all out before I go into hospital so my mom knows where to be and when which is also causing some anxiety.
If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies. ~Author Unknown
Do you cope well with change? How do you deal with it when things change?
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I agree with you on the school times etc. That irritates me no end when they simply chop and change. D’s last school was like that – they had not thought or comprehension of the fact that I live 1/2 hr from school, so chopping and changing times and adding new events during the school week affected me and they didn’t give a toss!
Big change in my life i don’t mind – i quite welcome the challenges that it affords me!
Change flusters me…i am very routine based. That is how I operate best. Diaries and routines. I even like to Diaries dates for changes…smile
I also do not like change or my routines changing… It’s a normal human behaviour!
I hate it that the schools just change things at the last minute. My dad drives children from school for an after-care and he has been in many situations where he had to go and fetch children from the class, and the rest of the children have to sit and wait in the bus… And then he has to explain why there are children who are late for extra-murals! Not on!!
Do you perhaps trust your kids enough to give them each a cellphone for communication needs? Like you say, you have no means of communication with them. Or maybe give them money to use the phone at school, if your children’s schools do have a public phone.
I’m like you. I like change but the things you have mentioned, needs to stay the same for me.
You know, I would take up that issue with the school. I think that they are taking things for granted. Surely they can’t just change things and expect you or other parents to just “go with it?”.
What about kids who use public transport (i.e. have to catch a bus at a certain time or else wait another hour or whatever) or have to walk home? Are things like safety not an issue?
I usually swim through change without really thinking about it. I try to be practical and just go with it. I don’t think about it and deal with it IMMEDIATELY AT THAT MOMENT. And I should, because often the emotional impact catches up with me much later and then all hell breaks loose.
I hope that things settle down for you soon enough.
x
It depends on the type of change. I don’t mind change in one aspect of my life but the rest needs to be sorted.
And of course you know I love my house in order so I can’t handle many rooms out of order all at the same time, like when we have painters in. My guy always laughs at me because I’ll do one room and then wait two weeks (enjoying the order again) and then do another room, etc.
But I do think I handle change (big changes, etc) relatively well.
Meh, i am much like you…change bites me. I find the way the schools operate is pretty heavy handed and they tend to think parents can sommer just fall in….drives me nuts.