This weeks Valentines Month couple is one of my favourite bloggers, Megan from By Megan Kelly. Megan and her husband both work from home and have two gorgeous little people.
- How long have you and your partner been together?
Darren and I have been together for 6 years, and this year we’ll be celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary.
- If you are married, what type of wedding did you have?
Our wedding was a good blend of traditional and unconventional – quite like us. We got married on the farm that we were renting, at the time, in a little stone cottage. My parents had managed to transform the area into an intimate and beautiful setting. At first glance, our wedding cake was traditional and white, but instead of your typical cake toppers we had little “Claptraps” made to represent each of us – a Claptrap is a robot from our favourite video game which we often refer to as cheap couple’s counselling. We chose to do our own vows – mine were very traditional and poetic while D’s were all about zombies and the end days. In addition to exchanging wedding rings, my husband gave me a matching samurai sword so that we’d always be prepared to ward off zombies, together.
- How long were you together before you had kids?
I fell pregnant 2 weeks before our wedding, so about a year.
- Where your kids planned?
Yep, it took me about 6 months to fall pregnant with Axl, and 1 month to fall pregnant with Eli.
- Do you have regular date nights?
- If yes, what sort of things do you do?
- If no, how do you make one-on-one time?
We don’t really like being without the kids – we want the kids to experience things WITH us, which is how my parents raised me. So, while most might like the sound of a weekend away without the kids, we want to drag them with – sorry kids! We go out about once or twice a week as a family for a lunch at a spot where Axl can play. As for alone time – is that a thing, with kids? Hahaha, just joking! Our version of date nights is D cooking pasta or ordering in, and us catching up on our favourite series. I guess we’re a little different as we both work together from home, so having a quiet night where there’s no PCs, emails and deadlines is dreamy!
- What is your idea of the perfect date night?
Honestly, I am a homebody. I love being at home with the family. So, for us, cuddling up after the kids have gone to bed, just to watch a movie is perfect! Oh, and lots of chocolate! There has to be chocolate.
- What is your most memorable date night with your partners
Our second Valentine’s Day when D surprised me and booked us (Axl included) a table at a popular restaurant. It’s very hard to get anything past me, so I think it was more the fact that he managed to surprise me. Before we left, there was a knock at the door – it was a courier dropping off loads of chocolates and a teddy (another surprise!). His note said, “I am not going to bother buying you flowers when I can just buy you more chocolate” – he knows me so well!
- What is your love language? And your partners?
I show I care for someone with gifts. This isn’t just said for my husband, but for friends and loved ones. I keep digital notes of things people might mention that they’d like and love surprising them when they least expect it. D usually picks out his gifts – he has expensive hobbies – but I love including small things that I know he’d like but often forgets he wanted in the first place. Darren’s love language is physical affection – he is a giant teddy bear which is one of the things I first fell inlove with – when he sleeps, he naturally wraps his entire self around me. Most days I beg him to stop because it’s just too darn hot, but when riddled with anxiety, it’s one of the few things that makes me feel safe.
9. What is the one piece of relationship advice you have for new parents?
Remember that your partner is probably just as scared and confused about their new role as you, but that you make a stronger team by working together. Communicate your feelings, make an effort to notice one another, and always come back to each other at the end of a long day. Honestly, it hasn’t always been smooth sailing but with my husband by my side, I feel braver and I want to be the warrior that he paints me to be.
- Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?
Yes. Each year we alternate who plans what we do for Valentine’s. We often have to do it the weekend before or after as we work in the evenings and struggle to get off from work, but even then, we still make an effort to make a special dinner and watch a movie at the end of our work-night.
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