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Imagined vs Reality Parenting

I have started leaving the younger two kids at school until 16h00/16h30, fetching them when I fetched Kiara was causing too much stress for us all. I had to wake Emma up every afternoon and then our afternoons were spent in and out of the car with the older two. This way when I fetch them dinner is done, I have done what work needs to be done and the big kids are sorted so we are able to spend good quality time together…..or so I imagined. Once again parenting reminded me that the imagined is very seldom the reality.

Last week was particularly rough and looked a little something like this.

Strap everyone in their seats and then the conversation goes, 

Jack: Mom can I watch when we get home?

Emma: NO! I want to watch.

Me: Emma, Jack asked first so he can watch and then you.

Emma: NOOOOO I WANT TO WATCH *cry* *screech* *sob*


Emma: *brief pause in crying* NO JACK I AM WATCHING

Me: How was your day Jack?


Jack: Mom I am watching FIRST.

Me: Emma, did you have a good day?


We get home and neither starts watching. Jack heads off to play while this goes down with Emma and I. (EVERY.SINGLE.DAY)Parenting|HarassedMom

Emma: I want tea mom

Me: Ok *puts her on counter so she can help*

Start making tea, she pours in, I get milk

Emma: I must put the milk IN!

Emma: Not that teaspoon. I want the blue one. (The blue one hasn’t been seen since 2014 but she will not use any other spoon, it changes each day but every day it is a spoon that is NO WHERE IN OUR HOME).

Eventually tea gets made.

Emma: I want a cushion and a blanket. NOT THAT CUSHION! PUT MY BLANKET PROPERLY.

Eventually I get her settled, she drinks 3/4 of her tea and then YELLS “MOM THERE IS NO SUGAR IN MY TEA” or “MOM I WANT IT HOT” and I have to restart the ENTIRE process ALL OVER AGAIN.

**the over use of capitals is warranted**


Somewhere during the second cup of tea, Jack starts.

Jack: Mom, I am hungry.

Me: I have made delicious dinner, I will dish up for you.

Jack: No I don’t want that food.

Me: Well what do you want?

Jack: What is there?

Me: Dinner.

Jack: I don’t want that.

Me: Ok then what do you want?

Jack: What is there?

**I usually realise at this point that I am the adult and stop (but do often end up making him cheese bread or 2-minute noodles**

Then we will have at least one sibling fight resulting in much screaming, some grabbing of toys, possible a little intentional destruction of property and a fair amount of me watching from behind the wall. 

By now I have sent about 4 SOS messages to David, eaten everything not pinned down and yelled far more than I had planned to. In fact, if I am completely honest here guys, I do a lot of yelling. I try really hard to keep it together but when I am re-making Emma’s 3rd cup of tea while Jack whines about how he can’t eat the mince because it has onion in, I lose my mind a little.

I am hoping it is end of year exhaustion and that next year will get easier because there were days I considered leaving them at school for David to collect. If you want to see why I decided to call this blog harassedmom, pop in between 4h30 – 6h00 Mon- Fri and you will see that there was no other name I could have chosen!

Photos taken by Cameron.

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  1. 8 December, 2016 / 10:19 am

    This is us too. We only get our boys home after 6pm. Then from 6-9pm it’s a screaming match, either between the 2 boys or one of them and me. You realise you’re the adult and should just step back and ignore them but it is sooooo hard! ๐Ÿ™ Why don’t these kids come with a manual?

    • Laura-Kim
      8 December, 2016 / 2:19 pm

      YES Kim!!! You KNOW you need to step away and the adult but sometimes you just have no patience

  2. 8 December, 2016 / 11:08 am

    If you’re looking for a suggestion I say go all Boot Camp on them.

    I’ve said to mine, okay clearly what we’re doing isn’t working. From today we’re doing X and we start doing X.

    E.g. Louisa’s money chart stopped working but they are HUGELY motivated by Cadbury’s slabs (like their mom!) so we buy a slab on the weekend and they lose a block every time they’re naughty (after the 1 2 3). Week 1 – 1 kid got 3 blocks and the other got 5, and this week seems to be better but we’re only on Thursday…..

    But do me a favour, and stop making her new tea ๐Ÿ™‚
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    • Laura-Kim
      8 December, 2016 / 2:20 pm

      Marcia I know you are right. I really do but we changed it by fetching them later which SHOULD have helped but it didn’t. BUT I am going to reassess!

  3. deborah
    9 December, 2016 / 10:20 am

    So glad to see I’m not the only mom to have these “meltdown sessions” with the kids some days are really more exhausting and challenging then others. The worse is when other people respnd with “no things cant be as bad as that your kids don’t misbehave”

  4. Chantal
    14 December, 2016 / 12:23 pm

    Yo, you gotta buy a blue spoon…………………

    And I agree with Marcia, stop making new tea although that’s really lovely of you ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. 19 December, 2016 / 6:52 am

    I enjoyed the part where you ask your son “what do you want for dinner?” and he replies “I don’t know, what is there?” Sorry momma ๐Ÿ™‚
    I can see your perseverance being tested here. YOU ARE A STRONG SUPERSTAR!
    Well done on doing such a great job.

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