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Parenting teens and toddlers – there isn’t actually much of a difference

As you all know I have one foot in toddler tantrums and the other one in teen issues. My initial plan for this post was the differences between parenting toddlers and teens. When I sat down to actually write the post though, I realised that there were more similarities than differences. In fact parenting a teen and a toddler are pretty much one and the same.

Don’t believe me? Let me share some of the rules we have in place and you decide for yourself.

Don’t close your bedroom door when you have friends here.

Toddler: We all know that pretty much anything can go wrong if a toddler and their friend close the bedroom door.

Teen: Grandbabies! That is ALL!

Don’t shout at me.

Toddler: Little people tend to shout, often it is not to be rude but it is just their volume setting.

Teens: We had a shout free few years but there have been a few moments recently where voices have been raised.Toddlers and Teens|HarassedMom

Pick up the crap on your floor.

Toddlers: It is usually toys

Teens: It is usually clothes.

You need to wake up!

Toddler: Can be dressed while they sleep and carried to the car

Teen: Cannot be dressed while asleep or carried to the car! 

TV Volume.

Toddler: PLEASE can we put the sound down on the TV, I have let it go.

Teen: PLEASE put your ear phones in, that song is offending me it is so awful.


Toddler: I really hope the mom has wine. Walk into house to scout around before deciding whether to stay.

Teen: I really hope there is no alcohol of any kind anywhere in this house. Walk into house to scout around before deciding whether it is safe to leave or not.

Sleeping through.

Toddler: PLEASE don’t wake up tonight and want to sleep by me.

Teen: PLEASE don’t wake me up tonight by phoning a friend at 23h30 or deciding to have a shower at 22h00. (We have implement some rules on this now.)

Leaving time/Pick Up time:

Toddler: Carry toddler kicking and screaming out of the play area.

Teen: Hoot and shout his name out of the car so you can leave after waiting in the car for 20 minutes while he says “goodbye”Toddlers and Teens|HarassedMom

There are a few things that do change though!

Getting dressed:

Toddler: YES wear whatever you want, please can we just GO!

Teen: You can wear anything EXCEPT what you have on!


Toddler: I will buy you a pony and a golden tiara if you just eat ONE mouthful of this food!

Teen: I will buy you a car if you STOP eating everything we own by breakfast!




Different or similar, parenting teens is as challenging and frustrating as parenting a toddler. It is, I think, a little more rewarding because your teen is the light at the end of the tunnel. You realise that you actually have done ok with this parenting thing.

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  1. 10 July, 2017 / 11:15 am

    LOL….I literally laughed throughout this whole post! “Grandbabies…That is all’ HA HA

  2. 10 July, 2017 / 8:03 pm

    Love love this post! I lie tally laughed as my daughter is three and I often wonder if this is teenage life

  3. 11 July, 2017 / 11:18 am

    I really don’t know how you manage with toddlers and teens and I am pleasantly surprised by the similarities. Thanks for a light-hearted and fun post

  4. 29 July, 2017 / 10:34 am

    We’re just a couple years away from our first teen and I’m dreading it. I think I’m more concerned about a teenage daughter than our son. Either way, I’m sure it will be an “exciting” decade …

  5. 2 August, 2017 / 9:55 am

    Ha ha, the real fun begins when you’re parenting teens and toddlers together and a toddler watches out the teen closely and learns how to hack you next time when you come up with advice they don’t want to hear!

    Thanks for these as they made me smile today witch definitely will help me survive in between my 5 and 16 years old.

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