I have been pretty negative recently. Things have been tough. We have been too busy, there’s been too much going on. The kids have been under pressure, David and I have both been under pressure. Honestly I haven’t been able to see the silver lining.
After a really positive lunch with friends last week things started to turn around. I got my head out of my own backside and started to look around me. I very quickly gained perspective.
It was raining one morning on the way to school, a young girl who attends Kiara’s school was walking with her mom who had a baby on her back. It was raining. I stopped and took her to school. We have a car, with petrol so my kids do not have to walk to school in the rain!
Emma’s nanny has a disabled adult daughter. Once a month they go to the clinic for her check up. The daughter always sends me a message on the day they go to thank me for letting her mom come with her.
We experienced load shedding on Saturday and Sunday. It wasn’t pleasant and we all had a big moan about it. We had electricity that could be turned off, that’s more than a lot of people have.
I had a Santa Shoebox Celebration Day. These children were so grateful for the contents of their boxes.For most of them, that box is the only gift they will receive. Even though its a lean Christmas for us this year, I know my children will receive many gifts under the Christmas tree.
There is a little down syndrome child in Jack’s class. This morning she walked in as I was walking out. She opened her arms wide towards and ran into my arms for the hugest hug. Her mom looked tired, she always looks tired. I have 4 healthy children whose issues do not compare to the challenges that that mom has to deal with.
There is a terrible video doing the rounds at the moment about a little girl. It is once again a reminder of just how much our society thrives on drama and ugliness. We have a wonderful nanny who loves Emma, who sits with her and plays all day. My heart breaks for that little girl and her parents.
None of these moments make my issues go away. They don’t pay the bills or buy the Christmas presents or sort out stationery packs. What they do though, is remind me how much I have to be grateful for and even when I have a little my family and I have much more than so many people.
These moments are reminders to stop wallowing, to stop feeling sorry for myself, to stop getting so caught up in our problems and remember that what we have.
What moments have you experienced recently that have given you perspective?