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Same, same but different

I know that no two people are the same. I am sure we all know this. It is nothing new. As my children get older and grow into their personalities, I am constantly blown away by just how completely different they are.

I am not sure if there are any similarities between the two older children apart from their appearance. They are polar opposites and while I do not expect them to be the same, I wasn’t really prepared for them to be this different.

Let me give you some examples.

Cameron is an A-type personality and believes only in things that can be explained with a rational argument. Kiara believes what she believes. He once tried to debate evolution with her, he laid out his facts, put his argument forward and felt very chuffed with himself. She said “cool. I believe in God.” When he asked her to explain why, she simple said “It feels right” and went about her business. He has over the years tried to get more out of her but her point of view never changes.

She wrote her exams in the offices of a law firm. They were nice offices, nice people etc but about half way through the exams she told me definitely knows now that she will never ever spend a day working in an office. Her words were ” I am not working this hard in school for 12 years to sit in a box every day.”

A few days after she had said this to me Cameron went to the same offices to wait with her. I had not shared my previous conversations with Kiara with him. He asked me if I find office parks and offices calming? He said he can definitely see himself sitting in an office one day.

There is more.

Cameron works on numbers, marks, stats, facts he can tangible see. The facts and numbers are stepping stones along the path he has mapped out for himself. A path that he started mapping out in Grade 7. One bad mark is not just one bad mark, it means he missed the stepping stone, he fell and has to start again. Failure is not an option for him. It never has been and I am not sure it ever will be.

During a recent discussion with Kiara on what would happen if she failed an exam, she said “If I fail, then it is what the universe wanted.” She shrugged and carried on drawing. People pay a lot of money to develop attitudes and outlooks like this. She completely submits to the universe, she does her part but the rest is not up to her. She has never seen the point of tests and exams. They do not determine her next step.

I could go on. There are so many daily examples of how these two people are complete opposites. It blows my mind. They come from the same gene pool, they have been raised the same and yet they are complete opposites.

Have you noticed this with your kids? Are they also opposites or are there some similarities?


  1. 12 June, 2019 / 4:23 pm

    I am always amazed by our children and how unique they are. It’s a joy to watch them grow and develop.

  2. 14 June, 2019 / 3:15 am

    Omg my 1 year old has more personality and spunk than any child i’ve ever seen! and his attitude is def from both of us!

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