The last few months have been challenging with Jack. We have (and still are) battled OCD and we are knee high in tantrums. It feels like all I do is count to 3 every time we have to get dressed, eat, get in the car, get out of the car, bath, change clothes. If he is one of his moods the whole house is held to ransom by his screams, whines and demands.
As you know Cameron is now swimming, currently only 3 times a week until soccer ends in two weeks. It has been a month of driving up and down twice a day to gym and it’s a pain so I am trying to figure out ways to make it easier for all of us. So this week I tried getting dinner cooked and taking the two younger ones to gym to swim with them while Cameron swims.
Kiara was away on camp which meant I would be alone in the pool with both babies and I decided to rather leave Emma until Kiara was back. I am now so glad that I did that because it meant Jack and I have had two afternoons of uninterrupted one on one time doing something he loves. We swam for 45 minutes both days and then we had juice and ice cream afterwards.
We forget how important this alone time is for our children. It is not always easy to manage, especially with more than one child but it is something that is so good for both them and us.
It strengthens the bond. I think that the last few days have actually been more beneficial for me than for Jack because it has reminded me that despite the tantrums and constant burping and demands of cupcakes daily, he is a very sweet, gentle little boy who does bring so much to our family.
It has definitely changed his behaviour for the better. The last few days he has been so much calmer.There have been no tantrums in the car at school, little shouting and even less negative behaviour.
We have created memories. Hopefully he will remember us chasing each other in the pool and eating ice cream and running like a monkey through the ladies change room. If he doesn’t I have a few (blurry) photos to remind him.
We caught up.He chatted non stop about anything and everything – school, his friends, things we were doing. It was nice just listening to him.
I am not sure we will manage this every week but when we can I am going to grab it with two hands.
How do you manage one on one time?