I went for lunch with a friend yesterday and she said her plan for me for 2009 is to find me a boyfriend – a proper hand holding boyfriend as opposed to the non-hand-holding emotional detached variety I have been known to have.
But when she suggested it I wasnt as excited as I think she wanted me to be. A boyfriend is not in my plan? (Well unless Soccer Boy can deal with his issues and step – a boyfriend is not in my plan).
But seriously I am actually very happy with the way things are right now! I like being single and I thought I would share with you all WHY I like being single right now!
(ExMi did a similar post (different motives though) and I wrote and article on it over Christmas)
I am loving being single because
– I can do what I what when I want with no prior warning or discussion and I can change my mind enroute.
– I can make scrambled egg for dinner if I feel like it.
– I dont have to pick up someone elses dirty socks.
– I can watch what I want to on TV and cry like a baby if I want and noone moans about it
– I can sleep with my socks on
– I dont have to worry about friends I dont like but have to be nice too
– I can listen to my music as loud (or soft) as I want to
– I can buy pink linen
– I can go out and kiss whoever I want to
– I can go out and go home with whoever I want
– I can be silly and noone will tell me to stop being silly
– I get to choose which parties I go to or dont go to – noone else decides for me
Its actually the first time in nearly 3 years that I am ok with my singleness 🙂 I am not ready just yet to give that up. So my friend – your plan for 2009 should rather be finding me a new job!!
PS – all you people lurking – I SEE YOU!! Please leave a comment – good, bad, whatever! I want to know what you have to say – please!
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As a fellow single woman, I can really relate. When I first separated from my ex, all I wanted was someone new to fill the void. I have since learned to love being single. Not that I would be opposed to having a boyfriend, I have learned to be content with what I have. Hopefully you won’t mind if I add a couple to your list:
I don’t have to shave my legs everyday
I don’t have to hide those “period panties”
I can leave all my disgusting feminine paraphenelia lying around without having to worry about it being seen
I can lay around in my pajamas all day and no one cares
I’m a fairly newly single for the first time in my life since I was fifteen years old and I’m still in the comfort and fill a void area. We just broke up around October ’08, so it’s still a bit rough.
That said, I LOVED this list. Sometimes, when I’m alone in the kitchen, washing dishes while listening to my iTunes cranked on the music I love and doing laundry that consists of only three FEMALES stuff, I sit back and think of things like this. Right now, it’s all about not having to ask if it’s okay. I know what sounds messed, but I always felt like I had to ask. “Do you mind if I go on the internet for awhile?” “Do you mind if I go take a bath?” “Do you mind if I run over to the mall for a bit?”
I love the freedom so much. Someday, I want to find a guy that I don’t have to ask, do you mind.
Great post.
Minus the Pink linen… that’s the same reasons why I’m single too.. haha
Don’t get forced into a boyfriend because everyone else thinks you should have one.
Great list! I like the I don’t have to shave my legs everyday comment by Susan because oh how do I love going a couple days without shaving them! LOL I definitely like the not having anyone to answer to, etc. Sometimes I wonder if I really want to give up all this freedom!
You go girl! You know I love gratitude lists. Plus acceptance of what is creates wonderful miracles.
Hang on! 2009 is going to be a blessed year for you!!
Well done laura, i am glad that you are settling now. I think you have earned the right to all the things you mentioned!
Wow – that list does make it sound appealing. Funny how we go so willingly from our parents telling us what to do, to our husband/ wife/ significant other telling us what to do, lol.
great list laura, finding happiness in whatever state we are is an ultimate success.
i’m glad my husband doesn’t mind i wear socks to bed. hehe
I’ve been a single mother forever. An occasional boyfriend here and there, not long lasting ever, not really sure why they don’t last, I suppose my picker is still broken…
But, I do like being single most of the time. Sure I’d like to have someone to cuddle up with late at night, but then I’d want him to leave so I could sleep.. alone.
Then sometimes, I’m really lonely and wish I wasn’t single and then I remember that my picker is broken and the men it picks just aren’t worth the hassle.
Confused yet? I am.
Hey Laura
I whole heartedly agree with your sentiments, perhaps if I had been married and divorced then maybe I would want to stay single, but everybody has to marry just once 🙂 Even so, Im loving being single only cos I dont have to worry about somebody else’s well being and feelings LOL!!
I was single for some years and yes, there is plus points for sure…. but I much prefer sleeping next to a man.
Awesome post! I agree wholeheartedly and am totally on the boyfriend-free 2009 bandwagon with you!
It is so nice to be single. This is the first time in my life I have ever felt that way (I’ve been meaning to post about it . . .) and have never felt so good about myself & life in general.
Keep doing what makes YOU happy and you can’t go wrong. And if a man is meant to be in your life he will understand.
Til then – ENJOY!
Love the list Laura! And who cares about the boyfriend thing.. sounds like you’re finally finding YOU!
All those things are great about being single, but why can’t you keep them in a relationship too? OK maybe the dirty socks on the floor is inevitable, but the rest I think you shoud be able to hang on to in a relationship! Hmmm, maybe this is why I’m single!
I can relate! I have similar reasons that I love being single. That said, it sure would be nice to have someone around… Chasing after dating relations or booty gets old after a while!
That is a great list Laura and it sounds kinda appealing!!
I agree with Jeanette though..rather then finding a man find you 🙂
I like being able to sleep diagonally across the bed, having my laptop in bed with me and staying up as late as I want doing what I want. Making food and drinks only when I feel like it. Eating cereal for dinner. Peanut butter in bed at midnight, and being silent for hours and having no TV on.
No crap lying around, and no waiting turns fir the bathroom.
BEST part though is crazy naked dance parties in my bedroom with loud music! 😉
I cannot fall asleep with socks on. Even in winter.
Good list. Although I must say that I’m married and still make scrambled eggs for supper occasionally 😉
LOL – i also like to chose what parties to go to and what time to go home ……… but mostly i like to chose the route to drive….how friggen anal is that.
Biggest stress factor for me when in a relationship – someone else is driving and chosing the route.
I have so much growing up to do 😉
….and i must also learn to spell.
choose not chose (sorry)
There are pluses and minuses for for being in a relationship, but it sounds like you are happy being single, so go for it! Have fun.
My husband lets me be silly and wear socks to bed and he really never makes me do something I don’t want to do. 🙂
Oh how I love my hubby…but Oh how I miss those things on your list…lol….being a single mom for 7 years and then BAM married with two more kids….wow has that changed everything!!! Love it…but it shocks the system sometimes…Enjoy being single! 🙂
I think everyone deserves that time to find themselves and what makes them happy. I read your list, and you know what? It made me glad that I am with a man who I can have all those things with and still have my own identity.
I’m not saying by any means life isn’t complete without a significant other. I was single for over four years and my life was quite wonderful. And I DO miss the single days sometimes! (ok a lot of times) We’ve had our ups and downs but over the past four years I haven’t compromised anything I didn’t want to.
Enjoy being single! But don’t shut out the possibility of having it all!