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Why we need to stop saying breast is best.

I have been planning this blog post for ages. It is something I feel strongly about but it is one of those touchy subjects. The masses of “breast is best” messages this week have pushed me to finally share my thoughts.

We need to stop saying breast is best.

Let me explain before you start telling me all the reasons breast is best.

What does the word best mean? The dictionary defines it like this

best/bɛst/Learn to pronounce adjective

  1. of the most excellent or desirable type or quality. “the best midfielder in the country”

Now let’s look at the statement “breast is best” again! By saying breast is best implies that anything else is simply not the best. So if I give my baby formula, it is not the best. Basically, I am not doing the best for my baby if I do not breastfeed them.

By saying “breast is best but if it didn’t work for you, that’s ok, your baby is still fed”. This STILL implies I am not doing the best for my baby.

“Breast is best only if its best for you”. Yip this still assumes I am not doing the best for my baby!

Breastfeeding is NOT best for a lot of moms and babies. Breastfeeding was not best for me. It was not best for my mother. It is not best for moms who adopt. It is not best for moms who are crippled with anxiety and who are struggling to get it right with no support.

We need to change the narrative from breastfeeding is best to educating parents as to what their options are when it comes to feeding their baby. Mom’s need to feel like they have a choice when it comes to how they decide to feed their baby and not feel guilted into a decision they are not comfortable with because it is apparently best.

Of course, there are benefits to breastfeeding. There are also benefits to formula feeding your child. One is not better than the other. It really is not.

It is possible to bond with your baby if you do not breastfeed.

Your baby will not automatically be sick if they are not breastfed.

You can feed on demand even if you formula feed.

I am not saying moms shouldn’t breastfeed. I am not saying breastfeeding is bad. I am not even saying moms shouldn’t try to breastfeed. I am just saying it is not best and we need to stop making moms feel guilty about choosing to feed their child their own way.



  1. 8 August, 2019 / 7:25 pm

    Well written friend. Been reading lots of moms with a similar view. I however have always seen “breast is best” as a fact. Breast milk is undoubtably superior to any substitute but that doesn’t mean breastfeeding is the best choice. I wasn’t breastfed as a baby, my sister and lots of my friends chose not to breastfeed. All for different reasons. All our kids are happy and healthy. We know breastmilk is “best” but even better than best is a mom that can take care of her child and that’s why choice is important.

    • Laura-Kim
      9 August, 2019 / 5:37 am

      But see that is my point – nothing is better than best? So if a new mom gets told – “Breast is best but you can choose not to.” that is like telling her she is not doing the best for her baby.

  2. Chrizanne
    11 August, 2019 / 9:29 am

    Really? The milk that only gets produced BY YOU because you are carrying another human being inside your body isn’t best?! What’s best then? Coke? I wish we as a society would snap out of this “politically correct” mindset, and start being more straight up. For birds, worms are best. Not human breastmilk. But if that is the ALTERNATIVE for birds, then it’s better than coke 😉 Breast is best for your baby. Formula is the better ALTERNATIVE to keep them sustained, fed and nourished. But it can never. Ever. Be better than the liquid gold that is produced by your body for the baby you are growing.

    • Tanya van Rensburg
      13 August, 2019 / 12:34 pm

      Fed is best! If my body simply could not produce the liquid gold breast milk than I had no choice but to give formula. My baby was fed and happy and that does not make me a bad Mom

    • Mariah
      6 September, 2019 / 11:53 am

      Exactly. Fed is only NECESSARY. Not best. Even formula cans tell you breastmilk is better. It’s not even about bashing a mother that chose not to breastfeed or couldn’t breastfeed. You’re doing what’s necessary for your child and that’s feeding them but breastmilk is superior. That’s just a fact whether women like it or not 🤷🏻‍♀️

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