Self care isn't selfish. It is kinda essential to our well-being.

I was raised in the 80s/90’s. Self care wasn’t much of a thing. Mom’s (women in general I think) weren’t spending their days getting their nails done or going away for weekends with their friends. They were sucking it up and getting sh*t done. So we learnt to suck it up and get on with life. 

And that’s what we did….until we couldn’t! 

I don’t know if our parent’s were stronger or if we have more to deal with but there just seems to be a lot more pressure.

It could also be, for me personally, the fact that I had two kids, got divorced, had two more kids, started a business, failed, started another business and then decided to homeschool. 

Whatever it was, self-care is not an option for me. It is something I have to work into my life. I tried to juggle it all and deal with the pressures of the above until my body just couldn’t anymore. 

This year was wake up call for me to listen to my body and make sure I am taking time to recharge, heal and reset.

Self care looks different for everyone.

Self care isn’t necessarily a spa day or shopping on your own or a weekend away. It is not a once off thing you do when you remember. It is something you have do every single day. 

For me it has been huge changes in my diet, not to lose weight but to help my body heal – this means no sugar, limited coffee, no processed foods, limited red meat or gluten. It has been tough but I feel better and by default my family have had to also made some drastic changes. 

It also means getting back to yoga. I needed to get active and I hate the gym, I have tried it and I know it is not for me so I needed to find something I would enjoy and yoga is it. Two-three times a week I spend 90 minutes in the yoga studio – it is calming, meditative, quietens my thoughts and feeds my soul. 

I am also making time to invest in me. I am getting my nails done and bought some not so cheap new clothes that make me feel amazing. 

This is what self care looks like for me! It is something I have to practice with intention because it doesn’t come naturally to me but I feel the difference and that is a great motivator. 

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7 Responses

  1. When I was first a mum, I never gave myself any time to myself or self-care really. I remember the health visitor invited me to a monthly pamper night for parents of special care babies and I never went. My friends invited me to exercise classes (which I used to love) and I wouldn’t go. I couldn’t think of doing anything without them. Now I look back and realise, I should have gone, obviously for myself, but also for my children. A relaxed and happy (and healthy) mum is better for everyone. Self-care is so important xxx

  2. I’ve always said that! Self-care is vital for the person’s well-being and to help the other people around us.

  3. Yes, self care is essential. It’s non negotiable to me! Its different for everyone. For me, I love to take walks every day.

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