Defining moments don’t always have to be big wow moments. They can be small moments. Moments, where in a second, your world is changed a little, where you are changed a little.
I had a few defining moments this year. Moments that I shall never forget. Moments that changed my path a little. Moments that made me cry. Moments that made me marvel. Moments that made me laugh. Moments I shall never forget.
The week leading up to my trial date for my divorce I was a wreck – looking back now it was all rather sad and pathetic but in the moment I was a mess. I was tired, scared, stressed and a huge big crying snot ball. The day before I was due to appear in court I received a phone call at work. It was a phone call from a blogger. A blogger I had never met. She listened as I cried. She told me I would be ok. She opened up about how she had made it through. She promised to be there for me. And she was. From that point on Christel was with me. THAT was a big defining moment. It was a moment I realised the power of friendship and the unquestioning support of single moms. And I did get through it. I survived – like she said I would 🙂
When I decided to study. I don’t think I really knew what I was doing to be honest. Its been so much more challenging that I ever thought it would be. Twice a year I turn into a dragon. I am tense and grumpy and miserable BUT you know what – we all survived. I did it. Passing my exams has been a huge defining moment. It has meant I know can define myself as strong and enduring.
The night Plane Boy broke up with me, as I sat crying my tears, he said to me “you are prettier than I remember”. That moment, while it was the end of something it was also the defining moment in our relationship and for me. Even when I wasn’t looking so pretty. When I was desperately trying to fight for something. In that moment he still saw me as pretty. Its how our relationship is now. To him, I am pretty when I wake up, when I am drunk, when I am angry, when I am tired. When he looks at me – I am prettier than he remembers. THAT moment changed me a little.
Buying my car was also a huge defining moment. Not because I needed the car or could afford it but because I did it. I bought the car. I fulled out the paper work. I followed up with dealers. I did it – all by myself.
These werent the only defining moments this year. But they were the ones who impacted it the most. They were the ones who will forever be a part of who I am.
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You definitely have come a long way and it is absolutely wonderful to see how you have grown. You are a remarkable woman and I’m certain you will accomplish anything you set your heart, mind and soul on. Well done! It truly is awesome to see where you are now, happy, confident, in love and so full of energy and life, so positive 🙂
Sitting at my desk crying… en jy weet ek doen niks halve measures nie. 🙂
Love you my friend… Supergirl.. forever x
It may not seem a lot to someone else, but you know how much these defining moments meant to you.
You have totally defined yourself this year. It’s been a cool evolution.
Wow, fabulous post.
Great pictures.
And good to put these moments down on paper.
Next year is going to be even better for you!
I agree with Shayne, next year is going to be even better for you ; )
i loved this post.
You are amazing.
Remember that X
Hello, been reading your blog via a mutual friend but this is the first time I am leaving my footprint – just wanted to say that this post is such an amazing story, not only to the people that impacted on your life but also for yourself as you have grown and defined yourself.
Well done You!
You have had a wonderful year… it’s been a year of immense change too! Woohoo to you 🙂 Love it!
I remember when all these things happened, especially the hell you went through with your court case. Look how you came out of it strong and on top of everything!
Loved this post … so much that I might do something like this myself. It’s been quite the year for us both <3
I love watching you and David together. I am so glad you found happy