Nice little cold spell we are having. Very grateful for the bag of winter clothes D’s mom gave us for Jack over the weekend otherwise the poor kid would have had to layer up on summer stuff 🙂
There is exactly a month until the wedding – 30 days! Hows that!
So keeping that in mind I have a few things I want to ask you.
- Did you speak at your wedding? If you did what did you speak about? Your partner? Or just general thanks? I am still in two minds about this. We have a fair amount of people speaking so I don’t need to speak but I think I may want to.
- Where did you go on honeymoon? Was it a surprise or did you know about it?
- Not sure if I have asked this on the blog yet but those of you who were married recently what was your rule about posting photos to social media?
- Did you have name tags on the tables? My father has thrown a toddler type tantrum about this – lol – he MUST have a seat with his name on it.
I think there was more but this is all I can remember for now 🙂
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Sooooo exciting!!! I can’t wait to see your pics!
I didn’t speak at my wedding only because I am seriously scared of talking in front of people. But I have been to a lot of weddings where the bride did say a few words and it’s nice to hear from you too. Even if it is just to say how hot your hubbie looks!
We went to Durban (http://alfinos.wordpress.com/2011/07/29/honeymoon-memories-durban/) and to Knysna (http://alfinos.wordpress.com/2011/08/03/honeymoon-memories-knysna-wrong-turn/) – it was a huge surprise, especially cos I had never been on a plane before!
I would stop people posting to social media, but only because I am a slave to my blog and would now want the first pics to be on there.
We did the name tag thing, but we were very particular about where everyone had to sit 🙂
I hope the rest of your planning goes well!
Oh boy! All this stress makes me glad I swore off ever getting married 😉
mmm… go to zanzibar for your honeymoon. pretty pretty…
No I didn’t speak. My hubby did but it was just to thank everyone for honouring us with their presence!
Lucky me I got married before SM became the vogue. While I wouldn’t want people posting pictures without telling me, I wouldn’t make a big deal about just because it’s just the way of life now and people feel the need to share share and over share
We didn’t have name tags but would not have been realistic anyway. Many weddings I have attended in recent years do have name tags. Though my boss didn’t she had a chart for tables and everyone just found a seat at that assigned tables. If you really don’t want name tags I’ll skip it, but that said if you daddy really wants one, maybe just have one for him even if he’s the only one with a name tag. You don’t want him being unhappy on your happy day over such a mundane thing (which obviously means a lot to him)
1. I spoke at my wedding
2. We went to Stormsriver, I even recently posted a pic of the receipt, can’t believe it’s been almost 13 years!
3. At Sally’s wedding (@pinkhairgirl) they asked that people not take pics during the ceremony and it was perfect. It is quite jarring when everyone is falling over each other to take pics with their phones
4. I did serviettes with each guest’s name embroidered on for my wedding instead of name tags on tables that doulbed as guest gifts, they were prefect for us
Love the bird cage…. 🙂
I did not speak at our wedding, but I hate speaking in public. I have been to wedding thought where the bride did a beautiful speech.
We went to Zanzibar on honeymoon, and it was amazing. It was supposed to be a surprise, but C accidentally told me at some point in the week before our wedding. I did not know exactly where we would be though.
Social media – we didn’t have any rules.
No name cards at the table, just a table plan with which table everyone is at. That worked well for us, but only because we could easily split people into tables that got along well.
I think every parent are thankful for clothes that the grandparentals give our children 🙂
I can’t really answer your questions as I did not have a traditional wedding but I wonder why you ask about photos on the Social Networks regarding your wedding? Is it that you want to respect your guests’s privacy?
Blackhuff – no I want them to respect ours 🙂 I don’t mind photos going up but I would like the first ones to be the official ones!
I did not speak and am up to today sorry I did not.
WE had name tags – I put it on the Thank you notes at each seat.
No idea about the SM stuff.
We went on an island holiday to the COmores – hubby surprised me before the wedding with where we were going as I had to pack the right stuff and get the passport etc ready.
I didn’t speak at my wedding but that’s because I don’t do public speaking. My DH spoke for both of us – he LOVES speaking. It’s his thing. I don’t think that there is any right or wrong. Do what feels right for you – if you feel that want to speak, then speak.
Our honeymoon was a gift so we had to be told. We went to Mykonos.
I got married before SM so am not sure what the etiquette is. @pinkhairgirl requested that no pics be taken and no tweeting/facebooking to happen during the ceremony. I think that’s fair. My friend recently went to a wedding where the bride requested all pics to be sent to her. She wanted to be the one to post them. I think that’s fair too. No name tags on tables – there was a seating plan though.
I didn’t speak because I chickened out. We went to Shelley Beach for 10 days and then to a quiet place in the Drakensberg near Ixopo, Qunu Falls. It was such a great end to it!
We had a seating plan at the entranve to the reception but no names at the seats. We figured people could deal with that themselves 🙂
Every time I read about current-day weddings I am SO glad we got married in the days of letter-writing, no cell phones, no sm, no fanciness 🙂 Saved us a TON of money and no comparison business too.
In exactly 25 days we’ll be married 18 years 🙂
So I had nothing – honestly I just wanted to be married. I didn’t care how, where, nothing.
We got married in church and a tiny reception at MIL’s house with a very casual buffet cooked by my gran. Lovely. Simple. So us.
I didn’t speak – that’s the only thing that would change now.
We had no money – got the honeymoon as a gift from D’s boss (San Lameer).
Back to you – just tell the people to please respect your wishes and if they do take pics, to send them to you.
PS who is your wedding photographer?
1. I did not speak at our wedding., I wanted it to be casual with not much of the normal wedding stuff, in the end though we had the Best Man speak, my sister and my husband. They were all instructed that nothing more than a few minutes each. We did not have a MC.
2. We went to the Western Cape on our honeymoon. I was not involved in the planning but did have a vague idea about where we were headed.
3. I had no rules about social media, I can’t really remember who posted what, but dont think that anybody put anything on FB.
4. We did not have place settings for anybody, except the main table. There I did put down names and where everyone was supposed to sit. The rest I just put down which table there were supposed to be at, but it was really simple, we just had two long tables. Mr OL’s friends at one and mine at the other…. We had not been dating for that long, and he was not from the same town as I was so we did not have many joint friends. Any we did have sat on “my” side.
I wanted it all to be as simple as possible and all speaches, dinner and formalities needed to be over before 7pm so everyone could just have one big party – we hired a band that played at one of the local pubs/clubs that we both enjoyed and had fun. No bouquet toss, no garter throwing, no elaborate stuff. We did however have a 1st dance and a cake cutting.
Ours was a very small, very casual wedding.
We didn’t have any speeches. We didn’t have any seating arrangements (there were only 14 people, including me, David, the minister and the photographer) and we didn’t go on a honeymoon. We got married on a Saturday and were back at work on Monday…
We got married before Social Media and with such a small wedding there was no risk of anyone posting pictures before us anyway.
I only posted our wedding photos to my Facebook page years later…
I reckon you can just ask people not to post any photos until you’ve posted the official ones.
We have been married 34 years so fortunately there was no social media at the time. I didn’t speak…I was only 18 and painfully shy (unlike today where I frequently have to speak in front of hundreds of people).
We went to Katberg for our honeymoon and used gift money to pay our way. We were poor and all we wanted was to be together.
I didn’t speak.
We went to Bakubang for a week…gift from the in-laws.
This was way before SM.
We had table plans but people could seat themselves once they got to the table in whatever way moved them.
~ I spoke but at the last second I left my prepared speech at home and I wish I hadn’t.
~ We spent a week in Cape Town and I did know as we discussed our options in depth before the time.
~ Initially I wanted no pictures posted anywhere until I saw them, but the nature of how we met, how a lot of our friends met, and then deciding to stream our wedding online made it too much of an ask for people not to post about it 🙂 . if you would prefer people didn’t, you can absolutely ask them to wait until you give a go-ahead or until your tog posts a “preview”.
~ We allocated guests to a specific table, but we didn’t do name tags. Not only is it an additional expense, but people like to gravitate to the people they know. And if the parents are at the head table with the couple they won’t need name tags.
1. I did speak at our wedding. I wanted to say some stuff to my folks, Cliff’s folks and of course to Cliff.
2. Honeymoon was a cruise of the med on a yacht and a week and a bit in Switzerland – I did know about it cos we needed visa’s.
3. I got married before social media and smart phones etc. That said I wouldn’t mind others posting pics of our wedding before the official pics went up. I love seeing the guest photo’s before the official posed ones.
4. We did have tags on the tables – but again this was 9 years ago before it became fashionable to not have it.
Enjoy your big day Laura – it goes so quickly!
xx